Words by Louise Cadell
Believe it or not, weddings aren’t just about the blushing bride! Some of us tend to forget about the very vital element to a wedding day that you find nervously standing at the end of the aisle – the groom of course!
We spoke to recently wed Will Ronald of Spring Ridge, New South Wales who married stunning Queenslander, Carmen on his family property “The Point” in 2015.
Like most grooms the morning of the wedding is usually spent having downtime with the lads, but for a country groom the way they seek their downtime is a little bit different to the boys in the city!
“The morning of the wedding was surreal, it was all a bit too much to comprehend so it just felt like any other morning…probably because we stayed away from Mum and Dads,” says Will.
The Spring Ridge Tennis Club was the perfect spot to loosen up and get rid of any of those pre wedding jitters by thrashing a tennis ball around the court.
“I took out a few of my nerves on that rubber tennis ball before heading home and shooting some clay pigeons which got rid of the rest…but wasted a lot of ammunition!
“Nothing really sank in until we started getting changed and then it got real…real quick,” reflects Will.
The bunch of blokes Will had by his side on the day truly were his best mates, and knowing him too well they decided that he was on the right track with the perfect girl.
“I am hopeless at taking advice and I think all my mates know this so they just kept their mouths closed!
“Only one of my groomsmen at the time was married and I was sending him videos of grooms breaking down mid-ceremony before his wedding…so he probably didn’t owe me anything,” says Will with a cheeky grin.
And like his mates, his parents knew any advice they gave would also be overlooked, either that or they thought their son was all over it…Will reckons that’s a bit unlikely though.
But behind every cool calm and collected groom, there is obviously a great woman (Will chimes in, “surely this counts towards some brownie points?’), who makes the day that much easier.
“Carmen is one of the most considerate people I know, she is always looking to make other people happy…which can be frustrating at times.
“She has fully embraced moving back to the property with me, and as great as Spring Ridge is, it can be pretty daunting moving somewhere where you don’t know anyone and with the idea that this will be home…forever!
“But best of all, she loves me for me and all she wants to do is be with me and be happy forever after,” Will says, as he adds those brownie points to the tally.
What we all want to know about is the moment when Carmen walked down the aisle.
It’s a feeling that never truly can be described with words, but the way Will puts it is about as real as it gets!
“When I first saw her walking down the aisle I thought…thank God she hasn’t done a runner which is probably every grooms first thought.
“Secondly don’t cry, don’t cry, don’t cry and finally…wow, she looks beautiful.”
After the big moment was done and dusted it was time to kick back and relax in true country style. The bridal party took off after the ceremony in a minivan complete with boom box, nibbles, beer and champagne.
"We took off down the paddock to take photos which was awesome fun as the pressure was off and we could let our hair down.
“But the pressure was back on when we arrived at the reception as I still had a speech to do,” he says.
If the wedding album is anything to go by the speeches were a huge success and then the celebrations really began with the wedding guests tearing up the dancefloor!
“It was great to have all our family and friends in the one place given they had travelled from across the country, and a couple from across the globe!
“The worst part is it was all over way too fast.”
Photography by Edwina Robertson.
OMG I am a bridezilla!
I came to this conclusion on Tuesday night. My fiancé and I were on our way home after a week away skiing at the dam when we called into my parents’ place.
My parents have been generous enough to throw us an engagement party at their place in a few weeks time and so we was just checking in with how things were going. Or so I originally intended.
Instead, I found myself being short and rude to Mum and Dad as they tried to explain what they had already planned. What they had decided wasn’t bad at all, and they had even booked the town hall in case of rain (great forward thinking). Dad was suggesting ways to hang the lights that would have been practical but didn’t fit my vision and so I was being difficult. They were trying their hardest to accommodate my wants for the party but for some reason this offended me and made me feel useless.
I’m not sure why? Maybe stress? Although I had just been holidaying so I was feeling pretty relaxed. It’s most likely because I have grand plans in my head of how every little detail should be. But really, the details don’t matter for an engagement party. It’s all about sharing the love with friends and family. In my bridezilla rage I had forgotten this.
So hindsight, how about it. It’s a great thing. Although it’s pretty embarrassing to admit to having a bridezilla moment, at least I can recognise it now before the wedding. Imagine if I were to behave like I had the day before the wedding in front of my in-laws… I WOULD DIE of shame.
I know I’m not the only one out there who is planning a wedding. Just please promise me if you are planning your wedding that you will not become a bridezilla! Lots of people will offer you advice and suggestions for the big day and they aren’t trying to stress you out or undermine your decisions. It’s all coming from a good place and people tend to offer advice because it makes them feel useful.
So, I guess since the wedding is in September this could be like a mini new years resolution- DO NOT BECOME A BRIDEZILLA IN THE LEAD UP TO YOUR WEDDING!
Instead, just be a legend.
Love TRB xx