Lets talk bridesmaid dresses for a second.
I’ll preface this by saying I don’t want my beautiful bridesmaids to be wearing something that doesn’t suit them.
Some of you may have seen my Instagram story last Friday night. I was rather enjoying myself as I searched the internet for a bridesmaid dress that would suit all 5 of my bridesmaids. Yes 5 is a lot but the more, the merrier, I say!
What I discovered when searching was:
1) If you use the word bridesmaid in your Google search you get the typical, long, chiffon, boring dress popping up all over the place.
2) Using Prom, formal, or cocktail in the search will get you NOWHERE!
3) 5 bridesmaids mean 5 different body types.
4) 1 dress is unlikely to suit all 5 bodies.
SO what do you do? I honestly have searched heaven and earth for 1 type of dress that will suit all the girls. I’m beginning to think that if I want the girls to look their best then this 1 dress suits all approach is not going to work.
So then I looked through a couple of Australian labels such as Shona Joy and Zimmermann for dresses in the same colour but different styles. Now this could work! I haven’t ruled it out completely because we did have some success when trying these brands on. However, both brands were unforgiving in the chest area.
So then I thought, well… I do quite like the mismatched look. For those of you who aren’t following- the mismatched look is when bridesmaids choose a dress/ outfit that suits them best and fits within the colour scheme. This I like because all the girls can wear the shade of colour that suits the best. Right? Or is this wrong because who knows how many ways dark green can be interpreted?
So then I got a hot tip from a fellow bride- pick a print or colour that you like from a particular label and let the girls choose whatever outfit from that collection in the choses colour/print. Genius! What I particularly loved about this tip was that the bride said that if the bridesmaids can pick whatever they want within the scheme then they will genuinely get a second wear out of it!!! DING DONG that’s amazing! Thanks girl!
I’m not going to tell you which route my groovy tribe has gone but it IS one of the ideas I’ve already mentioned.
Where does a rural bride shop for such a dress?
My favourite places to search/ shop for bridesmaid dresses (keeping in mind I don’t want typical) are:
- Mary and Me in Dubbo, NSW. Sal is always super accommodating and can rustle up anything to suit your needs. And, BONUS, for all really rural gals, they have online shopping. Just search Mary and Me in Google and something will pop up.
- The Other Shop in Tamworth, NSW. Seriously can tell you how good the collection of Australian labels are here. The Other Shop also has an online store, but if you can why not pay the store a visit in person. Good vibes I tell you, good vibes.
- One Fell Swoop- found online at Coco and Lola. One Fell Swoop is a Western Australian label that make stunning silk/ satin/ I don’t know fabric drooping dresses. I’m terrible at describing so just Google it, you’ll get what I mean. They have a lovely romantic feel about them. Little bit pricey but worth every cent.
If you have any hot bridesmaid dress/ outfit tips please send me an email, PM on Facebook, DM on Instagram or comment on this story so fellow brides can see.
Love TRB xxx
OMG I am a bridezilla!
I came to this conclusion on Tuesday night. My fiancé and I were on our way home after a week away skiing at the dam when we called into my parents’ place.
My parents have been generous enough to throw us an engagement party at their place in a few weeks time and so we was just checking in with how things were going. Or so I originally intended.
Instead, I found myself being short and rude to Mum and Dad as they tried to explain what they had already planned. What they had decided wasn’t bad at all, and they had even booked the town hall in case of rain (great forward thinking). Dad was suggesting ways to hang the lights that would have been practical but didn’t fit my vision and so I was being difficult. They were trying their hardest to accommodate my wants for the party but for some reason this offended me and made me feel useless.
I’m not sure why? Maybe stress? Although I had just been holidaying so I was feeling pretty relaxed. It’s most likely because I have grand plans in my head of how every little detail should be. But really, the details don’t matter for an engagement party. It’s all about sharing the love with friends and family. In my bridezilla rage I had forgotten this.
So hindsight, how about it. It’s a great thing. Although it’s pretty embarrassing to admit to having a bridezilla moment, at least I can recognise it now before the wedding. Imagine if I were to behave like I had the day before the wedding in front of my in-laws… I WOULD DIE of shame.
I know I’m not the only one out there who is planning a wedding. Just please promise me if you are planning your wedding that you will not become a bridezilla! Lots of people will offer you advice and suggestions for the big day and they aren’t trying to stress you out or undermine your decisions. It’s all coming from a good place and people tend to offer advice because it makes them feel useful.
So, I guess since the wedding is in September this could be like a mini new years resolution- DO NOT BECOME A BRIDEZILLA IN THE LEAD UP TO YOUR WEDDING!
Instead, just be a legend.
Love TRB xx
What’s really important in a wedding? What are you going to look back on and think “man I nailed that”? I can tell you this for free- its not the invitations, or the table numbers, the favours or your shoes.
What is most important is you and your partner making a commitment to each other in front of all your closest friends and family! Period. Full stop. That is it! Anything other than that commitment is a bonus and nothing to get bogged down in.
I speak to so many brides who are worried about sending out the perfect invites. They spend hundreds on the perfect paper and perfect graphics, and tens of hours obsessing over the final details. Reality check- no one cares. No one receives an invite and says “oh I don’t like the font they used”, or “oh I don’t like where that flower was placed.” If they do say that to you they’re simply not the kind of person who you want at your wedding and have just helped you cut back on your guest numbers. Boom!
Invites are to simply let people know where and when the wedding is, if you’re quoted over $500 for invitations you really need to take a step back and think whether or not its going to put you over your budget down the track. Some people can afford that and I envy you, but if you’re on a budget I would seriously reconsider that purchase. Also, don’t spend days fussing over invites because its all going to end up as landfill in the end.
I'm not saying that invitations are too expensive and that they're stupid because thats just not true. I'm simply trying to get you to put the cost and amount of time you're spending obsessing over them into perspective a little.
Now, wedding favours. Its lovely to receive a gift as a guest but its also a bit silly. Guests don’t expect a gift. You’re wedding is a gift. The free food, alcohol and good time is plenty. I get that it’s a lovely gesture to give guests something small as a keepsake and thank you for their support but if you have 100 guests and you buy everyone a gift worth $5 that’s $500 you could have for another aspect of the wedding or better yet your life after the wedding.
If you are dead set on favours why not try something homemade and simple. A couple of choccy biscuits wrapped in cellophane with a pretty ribbon is more than enough.
In my honest opinion I truly believe that every couple needs to spend money on these key items;
I’ve ranked photography number 1# because at the end of the day, when the wedding is over all you will have are the memories and the pictures to keep forever. You can’t keep the marquee set up with the tables, chairs and decorations to show your children and grandchildren. But you can always whip out your wedding photos to gawk at for as long as you need.
An on the day coordinator just makes sense. Most rural brides are pretty thrifty and don’t really need the use of a wedding planner but when you’ve spent a year or more planning this day you’re going to want to make sure everything happens like clockwork. That’s where an on the day coordinator can help, they come in the day before to take a look around and get the run down from the couple and then work like a maniac to solve any behind the scene issues that occur on the wedding day. If you think everything is just going to happen according to plan without someone in charge you have got to be kidding yourself.
If you were getting married at a venue or function centre they place will supply the coordinator and it will be included in your package, so don’t skimp on that little bit of security at a private location. I (The Rural Bride/ Georgie) do on the day coordination and I would LOVE to take some stress away from you. It’s very much affordable and highly advisable.
Obviously its important for you as the bride to feel comfortable in what you’re wearing but it is equally important for your groom, his groomsmen and your bridesmaids to be comfortable. No one is going to dance and have a great time in a corset or a tight suit. Make sure your clothes fit properly and that will make you look better.
If anyone has any other tips or pet hates when it comes to weddings leave a comment or send me an email. I love feedback. If you would like a little information on my on the day coordination packages and how it all works just send me an email.
As Mothers Day is literally around the corner I thought it would be nice to share our love and appreciation to the women who have helped us get to where we are today.
It's time to celebrate that time your Mum was Mother Of the Bride (MOB).
Happy Mothers Day to all the Mums out there! Thank you for all that you do, we sure know that no one else could do your job as well as you do.