What’s really important in a wedding? What are you going to look back on and think “man I nailed that”? I can tell you this for free- its not the invitations, or the table numbers, the favours or your shoes.
What is most important is you and your partner making a commitment to each other in front of all your closest friends and family! Period. Full stop. That is it! Anything other than that commitment is a bonus and nothing to get bogged down in.
I speak to so many brides who are worried about sending out the perfect invites. They spend hundreds on the perfect paper and perfect graphics, and tens of hours obsessing over the final details. Reality check- no one cares. No one receives an invite and says “oh I don’t like the font they used”, or “oh I don’t like where that flower was placed.” If they do say that to you they’re simply not the kind of person who you want at your wedding and have just helped you cut back on your guest numbers. Boom!
Invites are to simply let people know where and when the wedding is, if you’re quoted over $500 for invitations you really need to take a step back and think whether or not its going to put you over your budget down the track. Some people can afford that and I envy you, but if you’re on a budget I would seriously reconsider that purchase. Also, don’t spend days fussing over invites because its all going to end up as landfill in the end.
I'm not saying that invitations are too expensive and that they're stupid because thats just not true. I'm simply trying to get you to put the cost and amount of time you're spending obsessing over them into perspective a little.
Now, wedding favours. Its lovely to receive a gift as a guest but its also a bit silly. Guests don’t expect a gift. You’re wedding is a gift. The free food, alcohol and good time is plenty. I get that it’s a lovely gesture to give guests something small as a keepsake and thank you for their support but if you have 100 guests and you buy everyone a gift worth $5 that’s $500 you could have for another aspect of the wedding or better yet your life after the wedding.
If you are dead set on favours why not try something homemade and simple. A couple of choccy biscuits wrapped in cellophane with a pretty ribbon is more than enough.
In my honest opinion I truly believe that every couple needs to spend money on these key items;
I’ve ranked photography number 1# because at the end of the day, when the wedding is over all you will have are the memories and the pictures to keep forever. You can’t keep the marquee set up with the tables, chairs and decorations to show your children and grandchildren. But you can always whip out your wedding photos to gawk at for as long as you need.
An on the day coordinator just makes sense. Most rural brides are pretty thrifty and don’t really need the use of a wedding planner but when you’ve spent a year or more planning this day you’re going to want to make sure everything happens like clockwork. That’s where an on the day coordinator can help, they come in the day before to take a look around and get the run down from the couple and then work like a maniac to solve any behind the scene issues that occur on the wedding day. If you think everything is just going to happen according to plan without someone in charge you have got to be kidding yourself.
If you were getting married at a venue or function centre they place will supply the coordinator and it will be included in your package, so don’t skimp on that little bit of security at a private location. I (The Rural Bride/ Georgie) do on the day coordination and I would LOVE to take some stress away from you. It’s very much affordable and highly advisable.
Obviously its important for you as the bride to feel comfortable in what you’re wearing but it is equally important for your groom, his groomsmen and your bridesmaids to be comfortable. No one is going to dance and have a great time in a corset or a tight suit. Make sure your clothes fit properly and that will make you look better.
If anyone has any other tips or pet hates when it comes to weddings leave a comment or send me an email. I love feedback. If you would like a little information on my on the day coordination packages and how it all works just send me an email.